For loving you I forgot my

How to understand the love in the couple? For many people love the couple means giving all, company, time, favors, and even money ... love the couple is a condition that is surrounded by a number of factors generally have to do with the way how we been educated in the particular, and society we live in general, religion and mandates also play an important role in the way how you express that love in the couple.

Usually when there is love, a feeling of well being and positive disposition toward someone or something ... the couple is one of the relations in which its expression is more frequently expected. Love is not seen, felt, but results in behavior and appreciation.

How is it then that if it is a positive affective disposition, the relationship partner makes me suffer so much? The situation may not be the relationship but the way we express or understand the love between the couple ...

I have heard a number of couples say they love madly, but instead of building a constructive dialogue to their differences, by the contrary, the love and the solutions to their relationship denotes shouting, insults, beatings, neglect and errors care, for some men and women, love is control, domination, submission, in order to forget oneself to be always present for the couple.

For many women, the waiting is a form of love and relationships, postpone any desire or needs to have time and be available when they call their men, so do not go out with friends because of his great love'm to call them, they prefer not go to a party or because their partners were committed to go through them, besides those friendships do not like much, hope he comes, he will call hope, hope that they take care, hope that the change ... and while it does not, then they are just waiting, often the man or what time it appears said, much less had at least some attention to apologize ... these women who have the syndrome of waiting ... easily forget themselves and their self-esteem, on the contrary, the greater the wait, the greater love for his men say they have ...

This situation is not unique to women, however, there is a major complaint about them ... the other pate, there are men who really forget themselves, when their lack of confidence in the relationship is a factor that destabilizes ... want to know everything about your partner, where they go, who you were, who are with them, stop living for themselves and are very aware of the actions and movements of his beloved ...

In both ways distrust love, heartbreak, control, and the meaning of life is put into the relationship. Each of the members of the former partners makes every effort to surrender to the couple who both want and need. However, each one thinks he loves his partner above all things ... but in reality there is a great absence and neglect themselves.

The woman waiting for hours, has no appreciation for their time, their needs, what you want and at the mercy of time and tyranny on the other, wait, because you can not or do not realize that she is able to be a person worthy of trust, appreciation and respect, if at any given time, she was able to give itself the time that the couple is looking forward to for the umpteenth time has not come when you said ... but no matter, she is able to wait, because such acts create, show your love, I do not know, basically, is that what it shows is just a way of contempt, but against itself ... and then love others means forget me.

In another aspect referring to the man worthy of mistrust their own worth, to an appreciation of what gives the couple all the paths need to be present so as not to despair of what: the neglect, abandonment, infidelity. He puts on women, I say on the woman, in her relationship with her, his worth, his power and his manhood. Why you need to control the look of the woman, metaphorically speaking, so that trust is focused on the relationship?

To top it off no one is actually living in the relationship, both partners are fully immersed in their own ways in fit between a couple. But in reality no one can be, realize that their ways of loving the other, is an oblivion themselves.

Importantly, while each of the members of the couple does not nourish himself with whatever you need and need and expect your mate them what they need to love themselves. What I want to emphasize is that if we we can not give us what we need to confirm us in our needs, our tastes, desires and quereres, no one's going to give.

Yes loving another means absent from me, then surely I will be living a life to dependence and indifference ... everyone beat their way ... the reality is that only you can choose the one.

Review the personal biography is not an easy road, but liberating and rewarding ... to know if your partner builds or destroys it, it is constructive or destructive, the first thing is to trust their own perceptions and feelings, the only way to know is to recognize each other as long as happens in situations of comfort or discomfort ... honesty is a powerful tool in this project to live up to two ...

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