The three most difficult to be Single Mom

Being a mother is one of the tasks with more responsibility that a woman can do, but being a single mother, is something much more complicated.

From the day I knew mother would assume that would be something quite difficult for me, especially because it was an immature and irresponsible teenager.

We must take into account that none of us when we are young we aim to be "single mothers", that is a situation that we never crossed his mind, and if you fantasize about being mothers and wives, it is always both, never imagine being in the position of being mothers, abandoned or separated, with gaps and limitations; always believe that our life will be better.

14 years ago, I do not imagine being a single mother, that's why I experienced every situation starkly difficult and complicated that life gave me.

Today we summarize the three most difficult things for a single mother:

1) Loneliness: Loneliness is the first and most difficult to overcome for a single parent it is our faithful companion and cruel to accompany us throughout our journey as single mothers.

Loneliness is present when your child is sick and not know what to do, when you have to also be head down when your boss used to harass you and you know nobody will believe you if you are accused or believe that you have no choice but to accept the situation that need work.

Loneliness also is with you when your child ask questions about his father and have to bite your tongue to tell the kind of unfortunate that it is or that you were the culprit. When less money your wallet, your solitude will be stronger and will be best to avoid it depress you that there is powerful.

Solitude by your side and despite the years never get used to it. Hug your child, tell him how much I want, how you miss him, and much more, this is the only ward off loneliness.

2) Questions of your son or daughter: We all know that children are curious, ask questions, some are easy to answer and others are uncomfortable. You have to be prepared for that moment, the children are intelligent, well read body language, and although never will tell you they know when they were spot on.

Questions about sex are easier to respond when your baby is a girl, but if you are the mother of a boy, prepare even more, because the main feature is that the little men are practical, they demand clear answers bluntly, if your answer does not satisfy you, seek other sources of information, unfortunately look with friends their own age, or worse, can fall into the hands of undesirable people took advantage of their curiosity, be careful and be prepared.

Never show fear of the answer, look into her eyes, show him your years of experience in life, make you own the truth, do not be afraid to tell you any experience of yours when you were their age, that way he will know that you can trust .

Remember that we are as Wonder Woman for our children, we are considered perfect in many ways, that will make them afraid to tell some things shame Tell you also had your age, we feel and think the same thing he or she, like you were wrong and get over it.

3) A new Pope: The last situation I put in that I think the last thing we should worry about is to look for a new parent to our children. Remember that as a single mother these likely to be the preferred target of evil wolves.

The arrival of a new partner should be left to God, otherwise you will stumble across one that will make men suffer not only you but your son. You should think about their welfare above all else, not your need, do not look like excuses to find a mate, remember that you are his world, his idol, and a new partner only will make you feel that you replace it, this couple will be an intruder in your life, or at least is what the kids think.

Do not force things, and always listen, remember that children are very intelligent, can detect when a person is not trustworthy, do not expose! When it is indicated, will let you know, you feel it is not necessary to explain anything, because the know that you're happy and that is not an outsider but a friend.

Remember that your priority is your child, lives and breathes it, always repeat what you want, hard hug. Ask if you want, at first be easy, shout children who love you, as the years go find it more difficult but you never stop and never ask him to stop responding. I'ma single mother, but I am a mother ... and you?.

Marilu Social www.soymadresoltera.comRed LopezDirectora of Single Mothers