Keys to maintaining a successful relationship

Today we all know more than one case of couples who have failed as such for one reason or another. In fact, it is said that more than half of all marriages end in divorce.

The reasons may be varied. We blame the pressure on us by our work, the speed with which it wants to live up to experience, the little patience or the tendency is to throw in the towel at the first disagreement and even the temptation of having people available in our environment that we are old.

The lack of values, lack of commitment and lack of co-existence is never an easy ride for a lot of love there are also other reasons.

Nor can we forget something really important is that the life expectancy of human beings is increasing. The years we lived in adulthood have been lengthened and also our quality of life is better. We had ages that were previously considered very advanced in good physical and mental health. In fact it is as if we lived two adult lives compared to our ancestors. So today is normal to try and flirt with several candidates before making the decision to share our life with someone and when we do and we're not entirely happy is that we are still young and strong enough to start again.

It took more to choose and decide, that's a fact, then one would expect that once we select someone and that someone to us, we were very experienced and did it so well that the relationship had serious guarantees to last a lifetime. But the statistics of separations and shooting partners tell us the opposite.

What happens then?, Do not we choose?, Do not bet on the commitment?.

With all this background of instability and breakdown of couples we see that not all end in separation or divorce. And again, within this group of stable partners are not all satisfactory operation. There are some who even do not separate it would not be considered unreasonable. Continually suffer discussions, verbal abuse, alienation, lack of mutual respect and even infidelity.

But not everything will be negative. A proportion of those partners who do have an enviable living and yes they feel good together and live a relationship based on commitment and trust.

Not that it is a bed of roses. Partners are aware that the principle effervescent infatuation does not last long and they know successfully overcome difficult situations they face together. They are what we might call healthy couples. What is the secret of the maintenance and growth of these couples?

From here I will summarize what are the common characteristics of these consolidated and stable couples having interviewed and assessed its members in joint and separate interviews.



- Creates a pair bond between the two that becomes stronger as time passes and have known, thus transforming the initial passion ever more solid.

Everyone knows that the passionate love affair leads to another kind of love that involves everything related to coexistence. It is therefore important that in addition to passion, believe in parallel with our partner links that make us feel both supported and also capable of supporting the other person.



- With an external problem or internal crisis react by putting everything in common and providing mutually agreeable solutions without trying to downplay the issue. Together they developed a plan to transform the current situation in a more favorable for the couple.

It is something like what we would understand to form a team. This requires that there is a high involvement in the common interests of both partners.



- When establishing a relationship, are aware that creating a new unit that is independent of their respective families of origin. This is a new family that does not depend emotionally on other people more so than among themselves.

Not mean that you should give up the cordial and healthy members of families, but it is to have goals and own and partner views do not necessarily coincide with those of our parents or siblings.



- The unit of couple who created it, as I said, a strong entity in itself and distinct from the sum of the two individuals who compose it, but at the same time respecting the personal space of each team. Are those engaged couples each man for himself but then also have time together to perform other common. Nor have to share exactly the same friendships and maintaining their individual identity.

We would say because they create an identity as a couple but that should not make every one of them miss the chance to enjoy the activities or hobbies that you like as an individual. To this end, Member States should enjoy a certain degree of mental maturity.



- Enjoy a satisfying and enjoyable sex with each other. After the initial period in which raw physical attraction and the resulting fluid relationships, the couples are seeking ways to avoid falling into the routine and relationships and make a game enjoyable and fun.

It is common for these couples aside at least a few hours a week to be alone with each other and share intimacy.



- When are parents, know how to play that role by educating the children of the two agree to avoid conflicts and to establish sound criteria. Children are an important part of his life but not the center around which all his life. They remain first and foremost a partner and not just become a father and a mother.

Couples who fail to act in this way, unless overprotect their children so that they assume their responsibilities before. Furthermore, as the children leave home, the couple is much more likely to continue to grow and strengthen further. The support of a couple should never fall on their children.



- The care and support each other before any serious or threatening situation and the two living members of that situation as natural and part of the commitment set one day.

This point is related to the fact that growth is necessarily a couple times of crisis by internal disagreements and external situations that threaten serious continuation of the same. If members of the couple are committed to its consequences will be much easier to overcome any threat or situation that may live.



- They have a friendly and open communication every day by booking a few moments to explain what was experienced in the day to each other.



They leave, in short, that the pace of daily life they will increasingly separate. In order that their lives are not to be separated, keep the other partner aware of everything that seems important that I should know



- They take care of their physical appearance and try to feel attractive to their partners.

One of the factors that are valued and that come into play when we find the other person is certainly attractive appearance. Partners are aware that appearance is important in a relationship as long as you bring it together and try not neglected and that the other person continue to find attractive.



- They have a social life with other couples who are similar in taste, lifestyle, children and hobbies.



That is, not merely maintain friendships each lifetime but are also able to establish new social ties with other new people who can be considered friends of the couple rather than one member only.